As I move higher in perspective and expand empathically to take in even more about people and experiences… I’m learning a new code of ethics, for myself…the hard way. Not too hard, though – I’m pretty proud of myself for how fast I’m learning. I’ve only stuck my own foot in my mouth a few times in the last couple weeks.

I’m sure there are exceptions to the below as far as if someone’s expression is interacting with mine and causing me discomfort or whatever. This is a huge subject with lots of layers and variations and subtle nuances. But, in a nutshell, here are the things I’ve been learning about lately.

If I had to sum it all up in a single sentence, right now, I would say,

“Even if I know I’m right and can actually see more than a person can see themselves, it’s not my place to offer advice, or even an opinion, on the way they’re doing something, or what they believe. The only exception to this rule is when they ask for guidance – those are Teachable Moments, but even those need to be handled with great care.”

I discovered that if I find myself with a vested interest to ‘make someone see’, then that is NOT a teachable moment. That’s a judgemental moment, and I can rest assured that I’m already in pretty deep judgmental waters. It’s time to backpeddle, or drop it all together, if at all possible.

I’ve come to realize that there is NOT only one correct way to do something. In fact, there is, in actuality, NO correct way to do something. Similarily, there is NO single correct belief. There are only expressions of individual souls on their own life paths.

A person’s way of doing something is their expression of who they are, in the moment. To tell someone they’re doing something wrong is to, in a way, tell them that they, as an individual, wrong. That their expression of themselves is wrong, and that you know better how they can express the Themness of Them. This, of course, is impossible – each person is an individual aspect of God expressing God’s Self… Only they have the ability to be who they are.

Just because I can see a person’s blocks and limitations with a newly heightened sense of clarity, it doesn’t give me a right to tell them about it, no matter how much pain they may be causing themselves. It’s their life, their lessons, their expression.

And I know for absolute certain that even if I can’t see from quite high enough yet to realize it, their own journey is unfolding in perfection – always was, always has been, even before I witnessed it. When they include me on their journey, it really is an honor and a privaledge – not something for me to take for myself, but for them to give to me by requesting my presence.

Once again, I’m still obviously *picks a piece of shoe out from between her teeth* just learning about these ideas…but I felt drawn to write about them, so there they are.